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s I was helping plan my 50th high school class
reunion, it was my job to find the addresses of
our class members and then send them invita-
tions. In our small town, it is not too difficult to
find everyone, as we had only 150 classmates. Our class
has always tried to locate and invite all the teachers living.
The most precious response was the impeccably hand-
written note from our 104-year-old superintendent Grant
Erickson. He sent his regrets for not being able to attend
due to limited travel from his home in Carmel. He also
wrote that he had fond memories of the KHS Class of 1975
as it was the last year he served as superintendent before
he retired. I fondly remember his soft demeaner, his lean,
tall stature and the impeccable landscaping of his front
yard. His wife was one of my piano teachers. They were
both deeply committed to education and were beloved
members of our little community. I hope he received as
much joy getting our invitation to join us at the reunion,
as I did from getting his sweet note.
Our back-to-school issue is always one of my fa-
vorites. With our cover and inspiration story, you will be
encouraged that CSU Stanislaus – Stockton Campus is in
good hands. Dr. Britt is an extremely talented leader, a
genuinely kind person, quite witty, and has made a com-
mitment to develop and grow the Stockton Campus locat-
ed at University Park. We are fortunate to have her leading
the way!
Oh, and about that piano! Along with three other cre-
atives, pianos have been painted and placed throughout
downtown Lodi to allow people to just sit down and play
a tune. Mine has been placed on the patio at Trail Coffee,
next to Papapavlo’s. I wonder if Mrs. Erickson is looking
down from heaven hoping I would sit down and play a lit-
tle Mozart. She was a great teacher, and I am grateful that
I can read music and play, but I must admit, painting that
sassy piano was a whole lot more fun than those lessons.
More about the painted pianos can be found on page 42.
God bless our educators!
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C O N T E N T S
W E L C O M E
Love of Education
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I N S P I R AT I O N S
Dr. Britt Rios-Ellis: Growing the Stockton Campus
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C O M M U N I T Y S P O T L I G H T
San Joaquin County Office of Education:
Inaugural Event Spotlights Education
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C O M M U N I T Y S P O T L I G H T
St. Mary’s High School: Celebrating an
Impressive Milestone
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S C E N E A N D B E S E E N
Goodwill
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C O M M U N I T Y S P O T L I G H T
Tony Gladney: The Man With the Mic
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M O T H E R ' S P E R S P E C T I V E
Getting Back to School With Confidence
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I L O V E M Y C O M M U N I T Y
Darice Elmore
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C O M M U N I T Y S P O T L I G H T
First Day Project: Beginning Literacy Early!
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C O M M U N I T Y S P O T L I G H T
Athena Boyd: Lemonade & Literacy!
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E D U C AT I O N
Teaching Kids to Love the Library
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S C E N E A N D B E S E E N
Congratulations Graduates!
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T H E A R T S
Art to Be Seen and Music to Be Heard!
Painted Piano Project 2025
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S P A R K J O Y !
Abigail Riley: A Life-Changing Project
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H E A L T H
Giving of Yourself: Being a Blood, Plasma
or Stem Cell Donor
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S C E N E A N D B E S E E N
San Joaquin Medical Society Awards
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L O O K I N G B A C K
Genova Bakery: A Cherished Treasure in Stockton
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S C E N E A N D D B E S E E N
Roses & Rosé Brunch
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W A G T A L E S
Duke Hellige: Students Love This Gentle
Goldendoodle!
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C A L E N D A R
Celebrate Community Events
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Dr. Britt Rios-Ellis: Growing the Stockton Campus
Dr. Britt Rios-Ellis, president of Stanislaus State, knows that Stan State is
San Joaquin County’s best-kept secret. A deep education in language, political
science, health and fitness management, women’s studies and community
health merge with a 35-year commitment to educating others support her as
the 13th president of Stanislaus State.
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L O O K I N G B A C K
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W A G T A L E S
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assing out paletas, or popsicles, to students on the Turlock
campus, Dr. Britt Rios-Ellis interacts with a diverse and
active student body at California State University, Stanis-
laus. Her Paletas with the President event is one of many
happenings on the lively campus; tables of student-led organiza-
tions promote their academic and social causes, families take photos
to celebrate a quinceañera with the beautiful campus grounds for a
backdrop, and students trek to their next class passing through the
quad. As the 13th president of Stanislaus State, Dr. Rios-Ellis knows
the university is not only a beacon of transformation but serves as the
corazón, or heart, of the community, cultivating careers and educa-
tion while elevating and accentuating the positives of the San Joaquin
Valley. Her efforts extend across both Turlock and the growing Stock-
ton campus, nestled in California’s fastest-growing urban county.
There, Stan State is launching a visionary Health Sciences and Hu-
man Services Education Hub, a much-needed initiative designed to
address workforce shortages and expand culturally relevant care for
Valley families. Only a year into her presidency, she collaborated with
students, faculty, staff and alumni as well as community partners to
elevate a university whose national rankings by the Wall Street Journal
College Pulse America’s Best Colleges 2025—second in the country for
social mobility and ninth among public universities—reflect a com-
mitment to accessibility, support and transformation. As a bilingual
and bicultural education and public health leader rooted in service,
Dr. Rios-Ellis brings her extensive background to elevate this diverse
community, one paleta, one partnership at time.
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B Y A N D R E A B E A R | P H O T O S B Y J A S K H A I R A ,
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GROWING THE
STOCKTON CAMPUS
Dr. Britt
Rios-Ellis
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BACKGROUND
From the start, Dr. Rios-Ellis knew she wanted to make a sig-
nificant impact, and that route would come through a career in high-
er education. Born in San Francisco, she moved to Portland, Ore-
gon, with her family at the age of two. At the University of Oregon,
she earned bachelor’s degrees in both Spanish and political science.
During a study abroad experience in 1982 at the University of Gua-
dalajara, Mexico, Dr. Rios-Ellis fell in love with the Mexican culture
and the great people she met. It was here her Spanish grew more
fluent,and her interest in Latino issues blossomed. After two years
abroad in Australia and Japan, she returned to Oregon to finish her
undergraduate studies, going on to earn a master of science and a
doctorate in community health.
After graduation, she moved to Washington, D.C., and for the next
two years would work on Hispanic health issues while teaching at the
University of Maryland. In 1992, an opportunity at California State Uni-
versity, Long Beach drew her back to her California roots. There, she
spent the next 20 years teaching, conducting research and developing
opportunities for Hispanic and Latino health education and leadership.
“I wrote and led the grants that facilitated Cal State Long Beach be-
coming a Hispanic-serving institution,” she said proudly, seeing those
efforts help establish the Center for Latino Community Health, Evalu-
ation and Leadership Training and the community-based Centro Sa-
lud es Cultura. Her passions continued to gravitate to higher education
leadership, roles in which her work could have greater impact. For the
next six years she served as the founding dean of Cal State Monte-
rey Bay’s College of Health Sciences and Human Services, where she
co-founded its Master of Science Physician Assistant program, the first
of its kind in the CSU system. In 2020, days after she and her family
lost their home and belongings in the Carmel fire, she made a leap of
faith and accepted a position as provost at Oakland University outside
of Detroit, Michigan. She served in the position for three years before
returning to California where she accepted her current role as president
at Stanislaus State. “I’m back and I’m loving it. I often hear the words
‘valley tough’ and to those words I like to add, ‘valley kind,’ because
everyone my husband, Enrique, and I have met has been overwhelm-
ingly warm and helpful.”
Dr. Rios-Ellis views her presidency at Stan State not merely as
the next step in her career, but as a chance to advance her life’s work,
creating strategic teams, championing student success, building eq-
uitable access and highlighting the assets of underserved communi-
ties while transforming every place she serves for the better.
CENTRAL VALLEY PRAISEWORTHY
Dr. Rios-Ellis’ vast education and experiences have certainly
shaped her ability to uplift the university, and she shares this credit
with the diverse community of faculty, staff, alumni and volunteers
who wrap their support around Stan State’s student body. “What has
become crystal clear is that when Stan State thrives, so does the Cen-
tral Valley,” Dr. Rios-Ellis affirmed.
While Dr. Rios-Ellis promotes some of the great accolades the
university has achieved, often sharing a bookmark listing impressive
If you lead well, it’s less
about you. What matters
more is what you build
and leave behind 10
years, 20 years, 30 years
down the line. It should
be about a leader
bringing others along
with them to create
an opportunity that
is transformative.
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rankings from across the country, including being the 24th-best uni-
versity in the nation, she also shares her belief in the value of higher
education. “When someone comes to Stan State, they are likely to earn
enough within seven months of graduation to recoup the cost of their
education,” remarked Dr. Rios-Ellis. “This is a tremendous return
on investment. Our students will thrive and soar to new heights. And
that’s what we want them to do.” With the support of local businesses
and agencies, many Stan State graduates are actively filling positions
within the community and elevating their social mobility with clear
purpose and direction - and without educational debt.
SHARED VALUES
And there’s still more work to do. While the campus is known for
its strong nursing, teaching and psychology programs, Dr. Rios-El-
lis envisions new programs in the near future. She willingly listens
to the community to make those expanded opportunities a reality.
“Everyone here has a voice, and every voice matters,” she said. “We
will move forward together. Stan State is a catalyst for opportunity;
through strategic partnerships, we can create pathways that will serve
our students and our region.”
Part of this vision is the university’s continued impact in Stock-
ton and San Joaquin County. With construction of the Stockton cam-
pus’s new academic building nearing completion and as the only
public four-year degree option in San Joaquin County, Stan State is
further solidifying its presence as a dynamic and accessible hub for
education and community engagement.
Dr. Rios-Ellis’ commitment to the Valley can be summed up in
her two strongest values: integrity and legacy. She believes that when
you work with integrity, truth will come forth in all that you do. She
also acknowledges that real legacy does not solely depend on her ef-
forts, but collaborative work within the campuses and broader com-
munities. “If you lead well, it’s less about you. What matters more is
what you build and leave behind 10 years, 20 years, 30 years down the
line. It should be about a leader bringing others along with them to
create an opportunity that is transformative.”
She welcomes everyone to be a part of the great things tak-
ing place at Stan State and appreciates those who can bring their
ingenuity and knowledge to help make the university and commu-
nity successful. “Together, we have the talent, the vision and the
heart,” Dr. Rios-Ellis said. “I have no doubt that when we work
hard collectively, we’ll achieve great things for Stan State and the
entire Central Valley.” ®
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What has become
crystal clear is that
when Stan State
thrives, so does the
Central Valley.
Pictured from left to right:
Enrique (Quique) Rios-Ellis,
Enrique Rios-Ellis, Britt
Rios-Ellis, Itzél Rios-Ellis,
Xochitl Rios-Ellis
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he community came together in celebration of local public edu-
cation at the first annual San Joaquin County State of Education
event on May 7, 2025.
The event highlighted initiatives in local schools focused
on early literacy, mental health, career preparation and student con-
nection. Community leaders, elected officials and representatives
from local agencies joined with the county’s educational community
for the event held at Manteca Unified’s Weston Ranch High School.
The event was organized by the San Joaquin County Office of Educa-
tion in partnership with county school districts,
“Educators in our county are not just doing the work to get to
know the whole student; we are building the programs, lessons and
relationships to serve students and help them find success in school
and in life,” San Joaquin County Superintendent of Schools Dr. Troy
Brown said. “We are recognizing the innovation, passion and dedica-
tion found across all 14 school districts and San Joaquin County Office
of Education programs.”
Public education in San Joaquin County serves more than 154,000
students, each with a unique personality, background and ability. To
reflect the work of schools to reach all students, the State of Education
theme was Education for All.
The theme was spelled out in 15 individual letters on the event
stage. Student artists and creative staffers at all 14 school districts and
the SJCOE had transformed the plain wooden cutouts of letters into
works of art before the event. From painted mascots to carved emblems,
the letters were an expression of what makes each district unique.
The State of Education event was broken into two parts. In the
District expo, school staff and students set up booths and engaged
with educational colleagues, elected officials, partners and communi-
ty leaders. The Main program featured inspiring videos highlighting
what has been happening in local schools in four focus areas.
Through their Career Technical Education programs, schools and
districts offer hands-on experience to prepare students for jobs that
will sustain and inspire them for life. CTE programs do not stay stag-
nant. They continually evolve, investing in the future of industry and
their students.
Learning to read is critical to academic success. Schools in our
county have put a renewed emphasis on early literacy by aiming to
teach students to become readers by the time they leave third grade,
using science-based curriculum instruction and offering training for
educators. In 2023, all 14 superintendents joined Dr. Brown in signing
a declaration in support of early literacy.
As students returned to the classroom after the peak of the pan-
demic, educators knew that mental health support was crucial, as
many students struggled with anxiety, depression and other issues. It
galvanized both coordinated and individual efforts to step up mental
health supports in schools, ranging from everyday attention to well-
ness for students to new resources for students in crisis.
Every student’s story is different. Backgrounds, culture, learn-
ing style, identity, endured trauma and overcome challenges all make
up each individual. Educators take the time to build relationships to
get to know each student and how to best help them learn and grow.
Schools and districts implement programs, training and support to
ensure all their students succeed. The effort is specific, deliberate and
data driven. Students who need more support can find it. And students
of all backgrounds see themselves and know they are welcome.
Students played a central role throughout the State of Education
event. The jazz band from Stagg High School (Stockton Unified School
District) and the choir from Weston Ranch High School gave moving
performances. West High School (Tracy Unified School District) JROTC
presented the flag and sang the national anthem. Venture Academy
Family of Schools culinary students served food, and WorkAbility stu-
dents from the SJCOE and Manteca Unified manned a coffee cart.
“We were intentional in ensuring the event was student cen-
tered,” said Brandie Brunni, director of governmental relations and
community partnerships at the SJCOE. “Because in San Joaquin Coun-
ty, education for all means for all students.”
The special State of Education edition of the SJCOE Outlook Maga-
zine includes inspiring stories from schools across San Joaquin Coun-
ty. Videos shown during the event and the archived event livestream
are posted on the SJCOE YouTube page. ®
C O M M U N I T Y S P O T L I G H T
S T O R Y A N D P H O T O S B Y S A N J O A Q U I N C O U N T Y O F F I C E O F E D U C AT I O N
San Joaquin County Office of Education
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Outlook
Magazine
SJCOE
YouTube page
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C O M M U N I T Y S P O T L I G H T
St. Mary’s High School
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A
year-long calendar of special events will mark the 150th
anniversary of the fourth-oldest business in San Joaquin
County. St. Mary’s High School has a long tradition of
excellence in academics, athletics, spiritual growth and
community service.
“Over the past 150 years, the bonds that have been created among
the students, families, our faculty and staff, the community, has re-
ally resulted in lasting and successful relationships,” St. Mary’s High
School President Jim Brusa said. “We have a commitment to caring
for these students and making sure they are getting the best Catholic
high school education and developing into good people, which is more
than just math, science and English. It’s about bringing out the best
in every student, making sure they know that they are valued by being
who they are and being that well.”
The school has been an important part of the fabric of the
community since it opened in 1876 as St. Agnes Academy with 95
students enrolled and seven Dominican sisters on staff. Stockton’s
founder, Capt. Charles Weber, granted land for a Catholic school to
be built in the new port city. Weber and his wife wanted what most
parents seek, a good school to give their children a strong founda-
tion for their future. He also gifted the school a bell that will ring
once more on August 28, 2025, at a 150th anniversary mass cele-
brated by Bishop Myron Cotta of the Diocese of Stockton. “He took
his bell off his ship and gave it to St. Agnes and they rang that as
their school bell,” said Stefani Delucchi, who has been researching
the school’s history since she helped organize an exhibit on the
school at the Haggin Museum back when St. Mary’s celebrated its
140th anniversary.
The college preparatory school was initially an all-girls school.
It later merged with St. Mary’s, Stockton’s all-boys Catholic school.
After several moves, the coed St. Mary’s High School landed on its
current site on El Dorado Street in 1956. It is here that the school
continued to grow and thrive. In 1970, the Oblates of Saint Francis de
Sales were invited to administer at Saint Mary’s. Its iconic St. Mary’s
statue is a comforting landmark on the 25-acre campus where more
than 850 students will be welcomed for the 2025-26 school year. To-
day it is one of two high schools, 11 elementary schools and eight pre-
schools in the Diocese of Stockton.
The school’s mascot, a mighty ram, has prompted the St. Mary’s
community to call themselves the Ram Fam and feel secure in the
knowledge that “once a Ram, always a Ram.” “You develop lifelong
friendships at St. Mary’s,” Jim said. “We have so many alumni who
just want to give back. We have a lot of alumni who come back and
work here. We have a lot of alumni who bring generations of their
children and grandchildren to school here.”
One such person is 94-year-old Rose Leonardini. “The St. Mary’s
I attended was what is today Annunciation Elementary. I graduated in
1948 from St. Mary’s,” Rose said. In 1968, she started working at her
alma mater as a Spanish teacher. She held many different roles at St.
Mary’s High School, finally retiring from its Alumni Office in 2023 af-
ter setting a record for 55 years of service. This year, her great-grand-
daughter will be a freshman at St. Mary’s.
Steve Dougherty, Class of ’79, whose own mother attended St.
Mary’s back when it was located on Lincoln and Magnolia streets,
said it makes an education at St. Mary’s all the more meaningful
when so many generations of the same family continue to obtain
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their education there. “My wife, Lisa, and
I have just been heartened to see our three
children graduate from St. Mary’s because
we did as well,” he said.
Some are new to the Ram Fam but
become deeply involved. When Dr. Roland
Winter and his wife, Kristin Winter, were
deciding where to send their four children
to high school, St. Mary’s smaller size,
its sports programs and academic options
such as AP classes were appealing. “They
left St. Mary’s fully prepared for college,”
Kristen said, “St. Mary’s also instilled a
strong foundation of the importance of
faith in their lives and gave them life-
long friendships.”
The Winter family became big boost-
ers of St. Mary’s and were the driving force
behind getting the track resurfaced several
years ago at the Thompson Sports Com-
plex. This year will be Dr. Winter’s 31st
year serving as team doctor for the football team. He also served on
the school board as both a member and co-chairman while Kristen
coached distance track and was on the athletic advisory committee.
St. Mary’s espouses the quote of St. Francis de Sales to “Be Who
You Are and Be That Well.” Over the years, it has built a reputation for
its 100 percent graduation rate and the college prep academy sends
nearly 99 percent of its graduates on to college.
St. Mary’s has so much to commemorate. The year-long celebra-
tion will kick off with Mass on its football field to accommodate all
the current students, faculty, staff, families,
community members and Diocese schools. A
special alumni tailgate will be held in Octo-
ber during football season. There will be a
Breaking Bread on the 50th Yard Line farm-
to-fork dinner. It’s Visual and Performing
Arts program will produce an alumni con-
cert and the theater program plans to stage
Hamlet in the fall and Mary Poppins in the
spring. The school is working with its ath-
letic gear representative to produce a 150th
commemorative patch that will be featured
on all athletic uniforms. “We’ve been build-
ing excitement for our 150th anniversary
since our 140th,” Stefani said.
Alumni who take part in the celebra-
tions will notice a lot of changes on cam-
pus since they attended. The latest is a gi-
gantic new reader board at the entrance to
the Thompson Sports Complex, which was
donated by Francine Carruesco Thompson
and Carl Thompson, Class of 1962. The state-of-the-art sign most
recently played video of the class of 2025 graduation. It also displays
the temperature, time and upcoming events.
Jim says he hopes excitement over the anniversary will inspire
alumni and community to support St. Mary’s so that it can continue
to build on its legacy of private education. “It’s an honor to lead SMHS
during this historical milestone. I’d like to thank the many business-
es, alumni and people in the community who continue to support the
mission of SMHS,” he affirmed. ®
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2025 Goodwill
helping hands
award
oodwill Industries of San Joaquin Valley
is pleased to announce Kevin and Sandy
Huber as the recipients of the 2025 Good Will
Helping Hands Award. Friends, family and
staff of Kevin and Sandy gathered at Grupe
Huber corporate offices to surprise the couple
at a luncheon in late May. Kevin and Sandy
will be honored at the Good Will Helping
Hands Dinner, Thursday, October 16, 2025, at
Stockton Golf and Country Club. ®
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rogram director by day, sports MC by night, Tony Gladney has a
way of connecting with people and creating spaces where all are
welcome. Born and raised in Stockton, Tony’s heart beats in time
with the local community. For years, he was involved with San
Joaquin County’s outreach programs before moving into the nonprofit
sector and joining San Joaquin A+, where he now acts as their director
of community engagement. On top of his nonprofit work, Tony also
knows how to win the hearts of a crowd; in 2018, he stepped into the
MC scene for the Stockton Kings and continues to MC games for both
the Stockton Kings and the Stockton Ports.
C O M M U N I T Y S P O T L I G H T
TONY
GLADNEY
THE MAN WITH
THE MIC
B Y R A C H E L F E N T O N
The same passion that brings
crowds to their feet at the Kings and Ports games also
ignites the hearts of the youth he works with every day; at San Joaquin
A+, Tony works hand in hand with schools and their students, leading
workshops that help them develop the skills they need to succeed in
the professional workforce. At the same time, he collaborates with
local businesses by being the liaison between the organizations and
the schools, facilitating industry tours and internship opportunities.
To some, his two passions of community outreach and MC work
might seem completely unrelated, but for Tony, they’re two sides of
the same coin. “I don’t think it was ever meant for me to leave one
for the other because they’re so complimentary,” he noted. In both of
these passions he works to create an environment that makes people
feel included, drawing those on the sidelines into active participation
and giving them a place where they feel that they belong.
He first felt the spark of love for community outreach when he
was in high school and joined the Students in Prevention program.
SIP is a program through San Joaquin County Behavioral Health Ser-
vices focused on aiding youth in developing leadership skills while
also distributing information and resources on substance abuse and
mental health. As a teen, Tony toured throughout the county with
SIP, visiting elementary schools, hospitals and jails. This opened
his eyes to the deep need of disadvantaged youths. He realized he
wanted to be among those who help in real time, the
clinicians, the social workers and the case managers
working alongside at-risk youths in foster care or
mental health care. This is where he found what he
calls his “heart work,” working with young people
who are navigating complex and often hostile sys-
tems and connecting them with the resources they need.
In 2021, when the co-CEO of San Joaquin A+ Don Shalvey reached
out to him with an opportunity to make a difference in the lives of dis-
advantaged youths, Tony knew he had to accept. Tony spoke fondly of
Don, who passed away March 16, 2024, and highlighted Don’s ability
to recognize value and amplify people’s natural gifts. Those admi-
rable traits live on in Tony’s work with the local community, both
outreach and MCing. He’s passionate about giving a voice to those
who have too often been unheard and creating spaces where they feel
at home. But he isn’t just the man with the microphone. He’s holding
it out to others and giving young people in marginalized communities
the chance and the resources to speak for themselves. When work-
ing with students specifically, he highlights that “you do belong here,
and that if you…have no experience, the value you bring is freshness
and innovation.” And to him, nothing is more rewarding than seeing
that lightbulb moment go off as a student aces an interview or fleshes
out their resume, realizing that they are intrinsically valuable and can
also be an important part of their community.
That dynamic of hospitality and community can not only shift the
entire tone of an event; it can change the life of disadvantaged youth
looking for a place they belong. Whether he’s working one on one with
youths in resume workshops or on his feet engaging crowds of thou-
sands at a game, Tony embodies the message that is at the heart of
community: you are welcome, you are seen, you are valuable. ®
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etting oriented to
the school is first
on the list. Does
your child’s school
have a formal orientation
meeting? If not, it doesn’t
hurt to ask staff if it’s pos-
sible for you and your child
to look around a few days or
weeks before school begins.
You can find the classroom or
multiple rooms where your
child will be attending class-
es and other school func-
tions. If your child will have
a locker, locate that too. Even
better, have your child prac-
tice unlocking it or a similar kind of lock. Many children are anxious
about remembering their combinations and correctly dialing it, so
practicing this can be very helpful. If your child feels more confi-
dent about where everything
is located and how it works,
first-day-jitters will be sub-
stantially reduced.
Practice the route your
child will take if she’s walk-
ing to school, along with
noting
alternate
paths
if
that would ever be needed. It
also doesn’t hurt to consider
where and how she can seek
help if that’s ever warranted.
Both you and your child will
feel greater ease knowing
such plans are in place.
Ensure that you and your
child know about any policies
or rules that the school follows. It’s likely that there are guidelines
for all students to follow, including a dress code, rules for cell phone
usage, collection of vaccination records and policies on attendance,
Getting Back to School
with Confidence
B Y H E AT H E R N O B L E , P H D
New classes, new teachers, new friends and much to learn! School will begin before we know it, so it’s
time to do some initial “homework” and get ready. Simple steps can be taken to get oriented to the
school year, prepare for academic success and strengthen social connections that benefit your child.
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including late arrivals, early pick-ups and missing blocks of time for
appointments. It is especially good for you to know the details about
any documentation that is needed, so you can ensure you have it
collected and submitted in good time. If there are rules about proper
dressing, it’s helpful to have time to find the appropriate clothing.
If your child has flexibility for choosing clothes, you might also en-
courage her to wait until the school year begins to make final pur-
chases, after she sees fashion trends among peers.
A second and very important area for consideration is deter-
mining resources and opportunities for strengthening your child’s
approach to learning, studying and test-taking. Many children ben-
efit from guidance on getting organized. Consider whether a paper
day planner is useful (or might get lost!), or whether an electronic
device and program might be used with greater ease and consistence.
Some sort of system will be needed to track assignment deadlines,
maintain awareness for upcoming tests and avoid procrastination.
Time management is key, and if your child learns such skills at this
stage of life, it will benefit him immensely in his future academic
and career pursuits. You and your child will benefit from considering
and implementing a routine schedule that will be followed through-
out the week, including time for study, extracurricular activities and
leisure time to rest.
At some point, all students need some extra help with learning
their course material. Let’s face it; the subject areas can be quite
challenging for the parents, too! Proactively line up resources. The
school might have additional services or tutoring available for a
student who is struggling, especially if the child has a diagnosed
learning difficulty. However, all students can benefit from a pro-
gram uniquely tailored to their needs, targeting and strengthening
areas of concern. Explore programs and services in your commu-
nity, such as Sylvan Learning Center or Kumon. Additional support
to your child’s learning can result in an immediate improvement in
classroom performance and also make a longer-term investment by
bolstering self-confidence for future learning and pursuits.
The third area to address is the very big social piece to the ac-
ademic experience. Your child is likely focused on his peers, but ef-
fective socialization begins with you. Express receptivity to hearing
and addressing your child’s concerns, however small or big. Main-
taining an open exchange of information with parents is essential.
If your child feels comfortable addressing minor issues with you,
this will pave the way to approaching bigger, heavier concerns when
they arise.
Encourage your child to develop a strong social network that
supports her well-being. If your child knows of particular peers at-
tending the same classes with her, it might be helpful to get together
before the school year begins to reconnect. This strengthens rela-
tionships and buffers your child against stress. Especially if first-
day-jitters are a concern, plan ahead for your child and a friend to
meet and enter the school together. It’s always a comfort to begin a
new adventure with a good friend by your side.
It’s time to finish any remaining “homework” to prepare and
begin a rewarding, successful school year! ®
SOURCES: greatschools.org, kumon.com and sylvanlearning.com.